Mojo has been throwing a few temper tantrums lately, and has taken a few swings at me and Kristin. She is definitely starting to learn where the boundaries are with us - and we are trying to learn how to deal with a very stubborn one-year-old. They are very hard lessons learned on both counts. Feel free to reply and share some parental bits of wisdom.
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When my first child realized that he could throw me into a frenzy by exerting his powers of tantrum throwing, I was determined to stop that behavior in short order! My mother, fortunately, was present at the time and she cautioned me not to react to his histronics. She said I would break his spirit. I was quite young and wasn't sure that she was right but I did think of her advise and still do remember it. I can't say that I acted on it at the time but as time went on I was a little reluctant to interfere, so to speak, with his expressive actions. If you can control your own behavior and act, not react, to the tantrum by staying cool and quiet and wait for the storm to blow over, You can then, in a quiet voice discuss or if possible yet, reason with her and calm the waters. You do have to determine what the tantrum was about and analyze just how firm you must be. Meanwhile you have to help her learn to show her emotions in another way. (Works with big kids too!)She needs to be be secure in her right to say NO and how to express it. She also needs to learn that she is not always going to win or always going to lose. Be fair!
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